[Thespiritexpress] Dementia ~~~~~

[Carlie Abbott]

This was so beautifully done and respectful for those that have 
challenges.  Thank-you

Carlie

On 3/12/23 4:05 PM, Spirit House via Thespiritexpress wrote:
> ~~~You may have already received this from other sources ~~~~ or you 
> may have read it and just forgot…
>
> ~ Here it is again if that is the case ~~~~ Lots of Love to everyone~!!!
>
>
> Janice is a friend of 40 years who has Frontal lobe dementia. Her 
> care-giver gave this to her husband.
>
>         In honor of Janice-
>
>         “If I get dementia, I’d like my family to hang this wish list
>         up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.
>
>         If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my
>         reality. If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think
>         we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those
>         things. I’ll be much happier for it.
>
>         If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for
>         me versus what is true for you.
>
>         If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take
>         it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.
>
>         If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not
>         start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet,
>         and see if I can still feed myself.
>
>         If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and
>         listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
>
>         If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child.
>         Talk to me like the adult that I am.
>
>         If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve
>         always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and
>         visit with friends.
>
>         If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
>
>         If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to
>         figure out what is bothering me.
>
>         If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be
>         treated.
>
>         If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks
>         for me in the house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and
>         if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.
>
>         If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.
>
>         If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me
>         24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve
>         done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a
>         great new place for me to live.
>
>         If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community,
>         please visit me often.
>
>         If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names,
>         events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.
>
>         If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music
>         playing.
>
>         If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or
>         handshakes.
>
>         If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you
>         know and love.”
>
>
>
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