[Thespiritexpress] Dementia ~~~~~

[richard weiss]

Beautiful ! Thank you for sharing,
Love
R

On Sun, Mar 12, 2023 at 4:05 PM Spirit House via Thespiritexpress <
thespiritexpress at lists.mcn.org> wrote:

> ~~~You may have already received this from other sources ~~~~ or you may
> have read it and just forgot…
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> ~ Here it is again if that is the case ~~~~ Lots of Love to everyone~!!!
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> Janice is a friend of 40 years who has Frontal lobe dementia. Her
> care-giver gave this to her husband.
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> In honor of Janice-
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> “If I get dementia, I’d like my family to hang this wish list up on the
> wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.
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> If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality. If
> I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents
> for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.
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> If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for me versus
> what is true for you.
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> If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it
> personally. My timeline is confusing to me.
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> If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding
> me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed
> myself.
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> If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do
> not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
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> If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me
> like the adult that I am.
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> If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always
> enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.
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> If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
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> If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what
> is bothering me.
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> If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated.
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> If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the
> house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may
> have trouble explaining what I need.
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> If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.
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> If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a
> day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find
> someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.
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> If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit
> me often.
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> If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or
> places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.
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> If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing.
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> If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.
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> If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.”
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